Different people have different views on marriage, and that's completely normal. What really matters is that you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to family life. Many couples prefer an equal partnership, but being equal partners isn't so easy as it seems. How to make your marriage an equal partnership?
Share household tasks. Most people find routine household tasks dull and tedious and avoid cleaning, washing dishes and doing laundry at all costs. Unfortunately, all these things need to be done, and in many families they end up being done by women. If you want to create a more equal partnership, you need to share routine household tasks evenly.
Work as a team. Sharing doesn't necessarily mean doing only your part of the job and not helping each other out. Do as much as you can together, this includes both routine tasks and occasional household jobs. Working as a team makes you closer and helps to foster partnership.
Make each other feel appreciated. People often take things their spouses do for granted. However, everyone needs to feel appreciated for the things they do, even when it's someone mundane like domestic work. If you express appreciation for the things your partner does, it makes your marriage stronger and happier (of course, if your partner does the same in return).
Support each other's dreams and goals. Getting married shouldn't prevent you from pursuing your dreams and goals. Of course, sometimes we have to compromise, but generally spouses who consider themselves equal partners support each other's goals and work together as a team (see above) to reach them.
Make big decisions together. Modern society is all about independence. Of course, you shouldn't give up your independence completely when you get married, but important decisions should be discussed because they affect both spouses. You and your partner should be on the same page when it comes to choosing a place to live, spending large sums of money, raising children.
Talk. Some people are so afraid to hurt their spouse that they say nothing when they're frustrated or irritated. However, bottling up your emotions never does any good, it only makes resentment grow. If you want to make your marriage work, you need to talk about everything, even if the conversation makes you uncomfortable. Because you're partners, you're a team. Teammates work together which is impossible without honest and open communication.
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