The term “unhealthy relationship” does not necessarily refer to romantic relationships. Relationships with friends or family can be unhealthy as well, and sometimes we don't even notice that we're stuck in a toxic relationship. Are your sure that all your friendships are good for you? Here are 6 signs of a healthy friendship.
It is mutual. A healthy relationship is about give and take, mutual understanding and mutual respect. A one-sided friendship is never healthy. So if you're the only one who gives in this relationship, we suggest that you end it. And if you the one who always takes and never gives back, think about your behavior. Do you really want to keep on being that kind of person?
No jealousy. If your friendship is healthy, you don't get jealous of each other's successes. You support each other and are happy for each other. Of course, you might feel slightly jealous every now and then, but you manage to keep your jealousy under control and prevent it from ruining your friendship. Good friends are each other's cheerleaders and motivators.
You have other friends, too. A healthy friendship doesn't limit your social circle. Sometimes the two of you spend time apart (go on dates, hang out with other friends or just have some alone time), and that's okay. A good friend will not prevent you from meeting people and trying new things without them because they understand that your world does not revolve around them.
You trust each other. A healthy friendship requires a high level of trust. The people who know us the best can hurt us the most, that is why trust is one of the fundamental aspects of friendship. We trust our friends to keep our secrets, to always be there for us, to never harm us or let us down. Different levels of friendship require different levels of trust, but a healthy friendship without any trust is simply impossible.
You have boundaries. All healthy relationships have boundaries, both physical and emotional, because everyone needs personal space. In a healthy friendship, all parties involved respect each other's boundaries. This respect is what makes you feel comfortable and safe when you're with a friend. Some boundaries are instinctual, some need to be discussed, but the bottom line is that you need to know where your friend's boundaries are and vice versa.
Communication. Open and honest communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Being a good friend does not mean silently putting up with things you don't like. Being a good friend means being able to talk about stuff that bothers you. Friends can have disagreements and even fights, but at the and of the day they are able to talk out their differences and reconcile. When your friendship is healthy, you don't hold grudges or use passive-aggressive behavior.
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