Society's expectations put a lot of pressure on us. We strive to meet them and end up being too hard on ourselves. The truth is, no one is perfect and everyone makes mistakes every now and them. It is very important that you learn from these mistakes, then stop beating yourself up for them and keep on living your life without feeling guilt or shame. Here are 5 things you need to forgive yourself for.
Your past. Everyone has done things they are not proud of. Drunken hookups, toxic relationships, wrong life choices... we've all been there. As we've already said, making mistakes is inevitable. It doesn't make you a bad person, it just means that you are human. What matters is how you learn from your failures and avoid making the same mistakes over and over again.
Taking a break. Sometimes you can get overwhelmed with self-imposed obligations: you should work well, you should eat healthy, you should work out, you should find time for your family and friends, you should this, you should that... All these are important things, but sometimes it all gets a little too much. You have every right to take a break from eating healthy, going to the gym, or socializing if it stresses you out. A short break from things you think you should do will help you feel renewed. And use up those vacation days, for God's sake!
Failed relationships. In fairy tales, a princess meets a prince (who is, of course, the love of her life) and they life happily ever after. Sadly, life is not a fairy tale. Most people have had their fair share of failed relationships. Sometimes couples split amicably, and sometimes relationships end really messy. Some people get cheated on, and some people are the ones who do the cheating. Sometimes people just fall out of love. A long story short, a lot of things can happen to your relationship, and you shouldn't blame yourself for any of them. Don't ever let your failed relationships keep you from falling in love again.
Burned bridges. You surely have friends you've grown apart from and toxic relatives you never talk to even when you cross paths at a family gathering. Sometimes it is important to end a relationship that it is harmful to your mental health, and burning all the bridges is the only way to do it. When you really need someone in your life, they will come back.
Being single. Being in a relationship just because you are expected to won't make you happy. There is nothing wrong with being single. Not dating anyone doesn't make you less of a person, while an unhealthy relationship can be really harmful. You need to stop feeling inadequate just because all your friends have a partner and you don't. Being single allows you to enjoy your alone time and teaches to love yourself. Besides, you won't be single forever, a day will come when you meet someone and fall in love with them.
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