Many couples, married or not, face the problem of cheating. One of you had an affair and it came to the surface. Should everything be over between two of you or can you survive it and your relations will become better? Actually, if both of you understand the problem, then an affair can make your marriage stronger.
First of all, we don't mean that everyone should cheat in order to make their marriage stronger, because it won't lead to anything good at all. We're going to talk about the things, how your marriage can become stronger, if you forgive your cheating spouse and start working on your relations.
You will re-evaluate your relationship. Affairs never come out on nowhere, there should be a reason why your spouse did so. So calm down and think what went wrong, whether you still love each other and what was your fault. May be, you didn't pay much attention to your spouse and relations. Now it's time to bring your marriage to the spotlight.
You will confront your problems. We're sure you have some problems in your marriage, otherwise there would be no cheating. Work together with your spouse to address those issues. Seek the ways how two of you can change your relations and make them happier then before.
You will realize what you could lose. Spouses rarely think of what they have, till something happens. Cheating can ruin your marriage and spouses realize, what it would like to be without this union. So if the marriage can be saved, the feeling of loss is tremendous and it will make your feelings towards each other even stronger. Of cause, it's possible, if you still love each other. If there's already no love, the marriage can't be saved.
Rebuilding trust never ends. Now it takes the cheater to work and actually his “homework” will never end. Rebuilding trust is very hard and complicated, since the knowledge of cheating will always be floating here. For starters, stop all the contacts with the other person and then show, that you can keep promises. No matter whether they are big or small, all of them have to be kept, because lie can't save your relations.
You will get professional help. Many couples come to professional therapy only when their relations are already to big to handle. But if both of you want to save the marriage and ready to work, then the therapy will help you get past the affair and work on relationship skills like building trust.
As you see, cheating never means that your marriage is over. In fact many couples survive it and admit, that the adultery made their relationship stronger. However, we warn you, that cheating shouldn't become the way how you try to revive your marriage.
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