Married life sometimes doesn't seem to be full of romantic weekends together, as you expected it to be. In fact, many couples would say, that it's far away from romance. What happened to you? Why did you lose the spark? How to rekindle romance in marriage?
The flame of romance can't burn all the time, that's why it's natural to experience the lack of bright feelings, that brought you together. However, you can rekindle the spark of romantic flame, and you can do it in many ways. For instance, you can do it on you own (but you have to be completely sure, that your partner is happy with the relations you have) or together with your spouse.
A good conversation is what you need to find out, if your spouse also feels there's some problem in your marriage. Don't start the conversation with the words “We need to talk” or “There's an issue to be solved”. The conversation should be light for both of you. Start it, when you spouse is in a good mood, for instance, when both of you spent a whole day together doing what you like. Only then tell, that you have something on your mind.
After you tell what's you problem, ask your spouse, how they feel about your marriage. You might be really surprised with the answer! You spouse may really be happy and see no problem. Or your spouse can also experience some problem, but it's not connected with your marriage at all. Or your spouse has the same problems as you, and you need to be prepared to listen to the list of things that's been bothering them. By the way, some issues may be related to you, so do your best not to become defensive.
Now, when you know what's the problem, you can do something to change you marriage. If some issues are connected with you, then it's time to change your habits. Only then you can start bringing back the romance to your marriage.
There are plenty of things you can do to make your marriage better and happier. Here's a small list of things, that will help you.
#1 Kiss passionately for at least 15 seconds per day. Passionate kisses don't seem to last very long, but at the same time they tell about your feelings. Passion is what can keep the fire of your love burning.
#2 Talk to each other for at least 15 minutes 5 days a week. You can't keep romance in your life, if you don't talk to your spouse. Forget different issues as work, bills or salary and communicate on a deeper level. What can you talk about then? Of course, about your life with each other.
#3 Date your spouse for at least 1.5 hours a week. Do you have dates with your spouse? If you don't have them, then you don't have romance in you marriage. Spend at least 1.5 hours a week together with your spouse and enjoy this time.
#4 Have 1.5 hours a week for intimacy. Many busy people have to schedule time for having sex. Well, spontaneity is wonderful, but only scheduled sex can bring back the spark of romance in your life.
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