Being true friends is so much more than hanging out and having fund together. True friendship is about acceptance, trust and support. If you want to be a good friend, you should keep in mind that there are things you should never ever do to your friends.
Walk away when they need you. It's easy to be friends when everything is okay. However, true friendship is about leaning on each other for help and comfort when times get tough. If your friend has a difficult period in their life and needs you, you should be there for them. We understand that you may have your own problems to deal with, but don't just disappear on your friend.
Hold them back from their full potential. Friends are meant to help each other grow, so don't discourage your friends from pursuing their goals. You can offer helpful advice or constructive criticism when you're asked to, but you should never criticize your friends in a condescending fashion.
Hold grudges. Friends can disagree on things and even have arguments and fights every now and them, it is normal. What is not normal, however, is being unable to properly reconcile and holding grudges. If you really value your friendship, you need to learn to make up and move on.
Get jealous of their other friends. People are allowed to have more than one friend and even more than one best friend. So don't get mad when your friend is hanging our with other people outside your circle. The fact that you are best friends doesn't mean that you have to be joined at the hip. In fact, one of the worst things you can do to your friend is get all possessive and try to restrict their freedom.
Talk about them behind their back. As a matter of fact, you shouldn't do this to anyone, but especially not your friends. Even if you've had a heated argument and you need to vent to someone. Remember the Miranda warning? Anything you say may be used against you. Things that you say about your friend can get misinterpreted and cause a lot of problems. And remember that posting vague statuses on Facebook can be counted as talking about your friend behind their back in public.
Get jealous of their success. When something good happens to your friend, you should be happy for them. Jealousy stems from your insecurity and low self-esteem. You need to stop comparing yourself to your friends because it's counterproductive and learn to be happy for them when something good happens to them.
Try to change them. You should accept your friends for who they are. No one is perfect, your friends have their flaws just like you do. But they are still good enough to be your friends, right? So don't judge them for their flaws and don't try to “fix” them because there is nothing to fix. Instead of trying to change them, set a personal example and inspire them to become a better person.
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