Sharing things with your BFF is an essential part of a friendship. However, this doesn't mean that you have to tell your best friend absolutely everything about your life. Some things are best kept to yourself, no matter how close you are with your BFF. Here are four secrets you shouldn't tell your friend.
Secret #1. You hate their significant other. Sometimes our close friends start daring people we don't like. It can be frustrating, but you should remember that your friend is an adult person capable of making their own decisions. Whether you agree or disagree with these decisions, you need to be supportive. Of course, if your friend is in an abusive relationship, you should do something, but if you just don't like their boy- or girlfriend for no apparent reason, keep it to yourself and be polite when you hang out together.
Secret #2. You have a crush on their significant other. Having a crush on your friend's boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't mean that you're a bad person. Unrequited crushes happen all the time, it's not like we deliberately choose unavailable people to crush on. That being said, you need to remember that you should by no means act on this crush. Your friends' significant others are absolutely off limits. And telling them about your crush probably won't end well. In the best-case scenario, it will make everyone involved feel uncomfortable around each other, and your relationship with your friend will become very awkward.
Secret #3. You've done something you are not proud of (i.e. got drunk during an out-of-town conference and had sex with a person from a rival company). Everyone has done stupid and embarrassing things at some point. The best way to deal with embarrassment is to forget and move on. However, if you disclose your stupid mistake to your friend, your awareness of the fact that someone knows about it (even if they are not going to tell anyone) will prevent you from letting go and moving on.
Secret #4. Your significant other's secrets/problems/past/etc. There are things that should remain between you and your significant other. Your boyfriend's (girfriend's) secrets are not yours to tell. Your best friend may be your confidant, but this doesn't mean that they automatically become your significant other's confidant as well. If you're having relationship problems or want to boast about your sex life, don't give your friend all the details. No specifics, ever.
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