6 Signs Your Marriage Is in Trouble
Every marriage has its ups and downs. Couples in a healthy marriage overcome difficulties together, and their relationship becomes even more solid. Sadly, that's not always the case. Here are six signs your marriage is in trouble and you need to do something to fix it – or get a divorce.Sign #1. You don't respect each other. Love and passion are important in a relationship, but healthy marriages are build on mutual respect. When you're in a marriage, you don't have to agree on everything, but you do have to respect your partner’s opinions, beliefs and choices. If you don't respect each other and allow yourselves to use a disrespectful or condescending tone when you have a disagreement, your marriage is definitely not healthy.
Sign #2. You avoid spending time with each other. We aren't saying that spouses should be joined at the hip. Each of you is a person who has the right to spend time alone, hang out with friends and pursue their own hobbies. However, if you can't wait to get away from your partner and look for excuses to spend as little time with them as possible, it's not good.
Sign #3. The intimacy is gone. And by intimacy we don't mean sex (although a prolonged sex rut does indicate that something is not right). Intimacy is about opening your heart to another person. If you distance yourself from your partner not only physically but emotionally, you certainly have intimacy issues you need to resolve. But don't rush to bemoan your marriage. Sometimes an open and honest conversation is all it takes to get a relationship back on track.
Sign #4. You have trust issues. Trust is one of the most important things in any relationship, a marriage cannot survive without it. If you feel you cannot trust your partner anymore, your marriage is in danger. Trust can be rebuilt again, but it takes a lot of time and effort. And it takes two to rebuilt trust, so you will have to work as a team.
Sign #5. You fight all the time. All couples have disagreements from time to time. But if you can't agree on anything and are constantly starting petty fights, it's not normal. Picking at your partner isn't a healthy approach to resolving issues. Spouses are meant to support each other even if they disagree on something, and not to argue all the time.
Sign #6. Neither of you is willing to adapt. When you get married, you don't have to change who you are, but you should learn to be flexible. Sometimes marriage is about compromise, you have to adapt to make things work. If both of you are too stubborn to adjust to the new circumstances, your marriage won't work.