“To kiss or not to kiss?” That is the question almost everyone asks themselves on the first date. On the one hand, a goodnight kiss after the first date is almost a ritual. On the other hand, what if you don't feel like kissing your date? Or worse, your date doesn't feel like kissing you? Should you kiss on the first date?
Let's get this straight from the very beginning. It is okay to kiss on the first date. It is okay not to kiss on the first date. In other words, it is okay to do whatever you both are comfortable with. The question is, how to figure out whether you're on the same page or not?
Kissing on the first date has a number of benefits. Firstly, the first date kiss can show whether you are compatible. If you don't like the way your date kisses, you probably won't enjoy having sex with them. (Although that's not always the rule, so don't refuse to give them a second chance if the kiss was the only thing you didn't like about the date). Secondly, the kiss can leave the two of you looking forward to the next date.
However, some people are not comfortable with the idea of kissing someone on the first date for various reasons. Besides, if you decide to kiss, you'll have to deal with all sorts of questions, such as “When is the right time to kiss?” and “What kind of kiss should it be?” First dates usually are nerve-wrecking, and these questions just put additional pressure.
We recommend that you kiss your date is the sexual chemistry between the two of you is intense and you can feel the mutual attraction. A goodnight kiss will be the perfect end of the perfect date that lasted for hours and made you realize that you really like each other. Just don't be too aggressive. Start with a small peck on the lips and then just go with the flow.
You probably shouldn't kiss on the first date if you feel awkward and are not sure you want to go out with this person again. Sometimes there is no chemistry, it happens. No matter whether you are planning to go on a second date or not, you have every right not to kiss your date if you don't feel like it.
Anyway, we suggest that you wait until the end of the date before initiating the kiss. If kissing your date goodnight seems natural at this point, go for it. If the kiss seems scripted and you are stressed out instead of anticipating it, you probably should just give them a peck on the cheek.
The bottom line is, there are no strict dating rules. You should do what feels natural. Enjoy your date, don't think too hard and go with your gut.
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