People who always crave attention and would do almost anything to get it are referred to as attention seekers or attention whores. Although there are positive ways to receive attention, they tend to do ridiculous things just to be noticed. Do you recognize yourself in this description? If so, let us tell you how to stop being an attention whore.
Step #1. Acknowledge that you have a problem. Acknowledging the problem is the first step to solving it. Try to figure out why you are always seeking attention. In many cases, such behavior is caused by one's lack of self-confidence and self-esteem. Attention seekers crave attention because they need reassurance.
Step #2. Resolve your self-esteem issues. To stop starving for attention, you need to convince yourself that you don't need other's approval and stop comparing yourself to other people. Remember that no one is perfect and everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Focus on your strengths, stop worrying so much about what others may think and try new things to distract yourself.
Step #3. Stick with people who make you feel confident. If you are constantly seeking reassurance, this means that you are surrounded by people who undermine your self-esteem. Find friends who appreciate you for who you are. When you can be yourself around your friends and don't need to prove anything to them, you won't feel the need to seek attention.
Step #4. Avoid social networks. Attention whores tend to overuse social media to receive even more attention. Stop posting selfies and vague statuses that make your friends/subscribers wonder what you mean, stop begging for likes and reblogs, stop using Facebook as your personal diary. We recommend that you take a break from social media altogether until you can control yourself.
Step #5. Watch your behavior. Attention seekers use many ways to receive attention. Here are some of the most common:
- making all conversations about them;
- exaggerating an embellishing stories they tell;
- lacking a brain to mouth filter;
- constantly getting in trouble;
- experimenting with their appearance (revealing or extravagant clothes, bright hair and makeup, etc.);
- being a drama queen;
- always trying to make others jealous;
- endlessly flirting with anyone and everyone;
- flaunting their problems for the world to hear;
- moping around but not telling what's wrong;
- always fishing for compliments.
If you do some of these things to receive attention, just stop. You need to make the list of things you typically do to get people's attention (sometimes without doing them knowingly) and stop doing them. Yes, it's easier said than done, you will need all your strength of will. But if you want people to like you, you need to stop seeking their attention.
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