According to Urban Dictionary, a bi-curious person is someone who expresses an intense interest in bisexuality, and/or suspects they may be bisexual, however does not classify themselves as bisexual as of yet. The term is believed to have a negative connotation, because many bi-curious people are prone to experimenting and can hurt other people's feelings in the process. Is it okay to be bi-curious?
First and foremost, it is important to understand that human sexuality is a spectrum. Let's take, for example, the Kinsey scale: it ranges from 0 (exclusively heterosexual) to 6 (exclusively homosexual). Essentially, 1-5 are varying degrees of bisexual, not all people who identify themselves as bisexual are 3 (equally attracted to both sexes). Besides, there are people who identify themselves as asexual or prefer non-binary categories (pansexual, polysexual, etc.).
Some people are sure of their sexuality, and some have doubts. Many people (mostly women, but quite a lot of men as well) fantasize about kissing someone of the same sex or having sex with them. Sometimes people who identify themselves as heterosexual get crushes on members of the same sex and start wondering whether their crush is completely platonic or not.
The bottom line is, it's completely okay to be bi-curious. You can be whoever you want, it's just a label. Figuring out your sexuality can be a long process, it is okay to be confused and to experiment. It is also okay to be confused, keep wondering about having sex with/dating someone of the same sex, but do nothing about it. Whatever you are comfortable with.
However, it is not okay to hurt other people's feelings while you're trying to figure things out. When you start a relationship with a person of the same sex, whether a sexual or a romantic one, you need to let them know you're confused. Some gay/bisexual people avoid relationships with those who identify themselves as bi-curious because they are afraid to fall in love and get their heart broken when their partner decides they're heterosexual after all. It's their choice, and you need to respect it. If you want to experiment, choose someone who's up to it and make sure you're on the same page. And if you have a crush on someone of the same sex, don't rush to act on it yet, figure out your feelings first.
Don't become obsessed with your sexuality, just go with the flow. Time will show. Maybe you'll realize that you're heterosexual after all, maybe you'll start identifying yourself as bisexual or pansexual. Maybe you won't put labels on yourself. Any of these options is completely legitimate. The only thing you need to do is avoid hurting other people's feelings.
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