Even if you are sure that you've met the love of your life and want to spend the rest of your life by their side, you might feel anxious and have second thoughts before the upcoming wedding. What are the main causes of pre-wedding jitters?
The wedding itself. The wedding day is one of the most important days in people's lives. No wonder they want it to go off without a hitch. However, nothing is perfect and something will inevitably go wrong. This realization can cause pre-wedding anxiety. You need to understand that there are things you can't control such as weather. Just deal with it. Even if there are any mishaps, you still get to marry the person you love, and that's the only thing that really matters.
Big things. When you are getting married, you need to discuss important things with your future husband or wife such as family budget, spending time with your extended families, having kids, etc. Many people are afraid of asking their future spouse these “big questions” before the wedding, and the lack of answers leads to anxiety. You need to start figuring these things out before the wedding, however scary it may seem.
Change in status. Even if you have been living together for a long time and nothing will actually change after your wedding, becoming a wife or a husband might still seem scary. People can be afraid that their relationship will get worse after becoming official. Hello, family fights and stale sex routine! But you need to keep in mind that you can have any type of relationship you want, being or not being married doesn't change anything. Married life can be a lot of fun!
Losing your freedom. Some people think that husband and wife should be joined at the hip and do everything together. Well, that's wrong. Even when you are married, you are still a person. You can hang out with your friends and have your own hobbies. You can even spend your vacations separately if that's what you want. Married people are allowed to have time to themselves.
New relatives. When you get married, you become part of an extended family. Your spouse's relatives become your relatives. You will need to participate in family activities, figure out where to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas (because you have your own relatives as well) and deal with your in-laws even if you are not particularly fond of them.
Forever. Even when we love someone with all our heart, the thought that we are going to spend the rest of our life with them can be scary. Forever is a long time, it's something huge and frightening. No wonder the thought of being with the same person “till death do your part” is making your anxious.
Having pre-wedding jitters is perfectly normal because your wedding is an important event and marriage is a great responsibility. However, you should not let them ruin your big day. If you are feeling anxious, talk it out with your fiancé(e).
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